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4 Lessons from my Mistakes

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Failure can absolutely suck it.

Even with the expansive methodologies available on managing failure, nothing prepares you for the emotional sting of it.

Now I am no stranger to failure. I failed at math (multiple times), failed at job interviews (that one phone interview that makes me cringe when I remember it), failed on the job (whole other story) but failing at something that demands your physical, emotional, financial, and mental capabilities is a whole other beating no one prepares you for.

I hate it and quite frankly I could do without it. Dramatic I know.

I have always dreamt…

8 Indulgent but plausible plotlines

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I have always enjoyed Sex and the City. If reruns were on, I would watch it enthusiastically with a glass of cheap wine, in a questionable t-shirt, whilst sporting a mud mask. Like the cliche I am.

However, I wouldn’t go as far as saying it’s my favorite 90’s TV show.

But that's beside the point. It was a cultural icon.

Once upon a time, critics might have considered it shallow and vacuous, but that did not stop it from being one of the most culturally defining moments in television history.

What it lacked for in its myopic views (trust…

4 screwed up ways to know your boss is gaslighting you

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Getting into a new career and joining the workforce can be a fun and exhilarating experience. It can also be downright terrifying.

For one, you actually have to know what the hell you are doing while playing office politics and keeping in the good books of your supervisors and co-workers.

Though trying to get along with your coworkers and your supervisor isn't necessarily a bad thing, it becomes tricky when your supervisor/boss is a Ph.D. holder in gaslighting.

Nothing prepares you for that reality.

A shitty gaslighting boss can make your career life a living hell.

But how do you…

For the weary amongst us

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Without new ideas success can become stale- Anthony Bourdain

Like most people, I was deeply upset at the passing of Anthony Bourdain.

He was that prolific public figure that managed to capture the attention and admiration of a diverse audience.

He was a larger-than-life character who seamlessly fit into a 5-star setting, whilst equally being at home chilling amongst the locals in a beaten-down food stall in some far-flung location.

This was his universal appeal.

There were no airs about him. …

Out of Touch Megalomaniac throws a massive tantrum

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My country is trending and not for a good reason.

As a Nigerian, I find myself constantly balancing the tight rope of admiration for the tenacity and ingenuity of its citizens, yet harboring anger for the slow deterioration, pillaging, of a resource-rich nation, brought on by an unintelligent, low life genocidal megalomaniac ‘President’, whose stupidity would rival Trump.

Today, the cabinet of clowns, in their questionable wisdom decided to suspend Twitter indefinitely and get this, they tweeted this announcement…on Twitter.

Read that again.

The. Nigerian. Government. Announced. They. Are. Banning. Twitter. By Tweeting. It's tragic if not comical.

Want to…

Being broke is the guru you never knew you needed.

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Have you ever been broke? So brokeity broke-broke that ramen noodles look like a 5-star meal? have you ever walked over an hour to work and back?

Well, please join me and raise your hands.

Listen there are many moments in my life where my checking account has been as parched as the Sahara desert. I have found myself making a sometimes 2-hour trek to work and feasting ramen (listen Indomie noodles have saved my life so many times I lost count).

Being broke is nothing new to me and I suspect nothing new to most people. On the way…

Skip the cultural appropriation and choose cultural sensitivity instead

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Kendall Jenner has done it again.

Now it just feels like she’s taking the piss.

Kendall Jenner recently introduced her tequila brand 818 into the market, and the ensuing promotional ad is getting people hot under the collar. And It’s pretty clear to see why.

Take a look at some of the comments on Twitter.

You are probably lying to yourself right now

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It not your fault.

The lies you tell yourself have been a comfort pillow for the uncertainty of exploring the unknown.

I have lied to myself frequently, and nowhere were the lies more pervasive than my career.

The career lies we tell ourselves, hold us hostage, as we play the long game hoping one day, things will change. As romantic as the notion of random change is, that only happens in B-rated rom-com movies.

Over time and with deep reflection, I realized that there comes a moment where we need to toss that comfort pillow and go buck wild… with…

Ig poetry is still poetry in my book

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A lot of people roll their eyes and cast aspersions to people on Instagram touting themselves as poets. I think it rubbish and unfair to bottleneck a person's creative outlet.

You see, traditional poetry while beautiful can also be an intimidating art form. Like abstract or contemporary art, the reader or viewer might find themselves lost in translation in the art.

Now, we can sit and philosophize what makes poetry, poetry. If we did we would rarely create anything. I believe there is space for Instagram poetry to coexist with those with a more traditional approach.

Personally, I love both…

For the creative soul, it takes one book to get your creative juices flowing again

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Feeling creatively stuck? Like your magic is slowly waning?

Well, you are in great company. The likes of Franz Kafka, Ernest Hemingway, Maya Angelou, Toni Morrison, Neil Gaiman, and much more have experienced creative rut in the form of writer's block to some extent.

Most people don't believe in being in a creative funk, which is ridiculous, because the creative process isn't a tap running on end. Sometimes there is a blockage that needs tending to.

This is where books come in.

The wealth of knowledge, passion, nuggets of wisdom, and much more are just the tips of the iceberg…


Self- Development and Self Improvement Writer. Voracious Learner. Slight Coffee and K-Drama Addict. Music and Movie Lover

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